Liking and Loving

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Published on June 17, 2007

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Liking and Loving:  Liking and Loving The Science of How and Why People are Attracted to Each Other Early Theories:  Early Theories Charles Darwin and the evolution of the smile Reward Theory We like people whose behavior provides us with maximum reward at minimum cost Impossible to argue against, but useless as a predictive theory The Effects of Praise and Favors:  The Effects of Praise and Favors As expected, we generally like people who evaluate us positively Although we think that critical individuals are more intelligent However, if we believe that ulterior motives lie behind the praise, we dislike the person Similar logic with favors Best way to get someone to like you is to get them to do you a favor The answer lies in cognitive dissonance What about personal attributes?:  What about personal attributes? Competence In general we prefer competent people. However, we find the highly competent person who makes a mistake to be the most likable. This finding is tied to self-esteem. Low and moderate self-esteem individuals differ, with low self-esteem (non-competitive) males preferring the perfect individual (don’t perceive person as a threat). Physical Attractiveness:  Physical Attractiveness Elaine Walster found that despite our objections, the strongest determinant of liking another person is physical attractiveness. White, found that even more important was the similarity in level of attractiveness in a couple. What is Beautiful is Good:  What is Beautiful is Good Dion and colleagues. Attractive people are assumed to have a multitude of other positive characteristics. Think about our fairy tales (Walt Disney). These effects begin as early as nursery school. Internal attributions are made for misdeeds of unattractive children. Handsome men receive higher starting salaries: Attractive women get larger raises. What is Beautiful is Good:  What is Beautiful is Good Courtroom issues. In misdemeanor cases, lower bail and fines assessed to physically attractive individuals Not true for felony cases A man is perceived as friendlier and more self-confident in the presence of an attractive female Self-fulfilling Prophecy:  Self-fulfilling Prophecy Snyder, Tanke, and Berscheid Males shown a photograph of a woman that they will then talk to over the phone Men shown an attractive photo rate the women as more poised, humorous, and socially adept More importantly, individuals merely listening to the female’s half of the conversation are more impressed by the women whose partner thought she was attractive In essence, positive qualities were drawn out Similarity and Attraction :  Similarity and Attraction We tend to like those with similar opinions Rewarding and not threatening to our self-esteem. Fritz Heider first proposed this with Balance Theory We will prefer a disagreer, however, if we succeed in converting them to our opinion. We assume that people we like agree with our opinions What do men and women look for in a partner?:  What do men and women look for in a partner? Women look for: Record of achievement Leadership qualities Skill at his job Earning potential Sense of humor Intellectual ability Attentiveness Common sense Athletic ability Good abstract reasoning Men look for: Physical Attractiveness Ability in bed Warmth and affection Social skill Homemaking ability Dress sense Sensitivity to other’s needs Good taste Moral perception Artistic creativity Styles of Love:  Styles of Love Hendrick and Hendrick: Love has different meaning to different people Six styles of loving Eros: Passionate Love Ludus: Game Playing Love Storge: Friendship Love Pragma: Logical Love Mania: Dependent Love Agape: Selfless Love Dealing with Dissatisfaction:  Dealing with Dissatisfaction Rusboldt and Zimbrodt identified 4 general responses Exit: ending or actively abusing the relationship Voice: actively attempting to improve conditions Loyalty: passively waiting for things to improve Neglect: passively allowing the relationship to deteriorate Two dimensions: constructive/destructive and active/passive

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