Published on March 7, 2014
Global Tech Women VOICES 07-March-14 Stacey Sargent Facilitator, Coach, Program Designer, Speaker, Author and CEO of Connect Growth and Development
The Book, The VOICES Sessions – – Introduction = Why Me, Why at Work This is How We Roll = Stories, EQ, WPI, Coaching, Sharing Inner Critic (07-March-2014; 11:00 PST) – – – – – The Cast of Inner Critic Characters Know Thyself, Know Thy Critic = Message, Triggers, Whole-Person Intelligence tracking Show Me the Data! = Truth Series, Hot Words, Rules in Play Taking a Different Look = Helpful, Both/And, Shadow, Check It Out, Feedback, Normal The Divine Flaw Inner Success – – – – – (08-March-2014; 15:00 PST) Work Your Core = Values, Identity, Feelings Know Thy Success, Know Thyself = Successes and Prouds Rocking Your Strengths PLUS = Strengths, Energy, Flow, SuperPowers Your Definition of Success Work Your Crew = Rock/Coach/Friend, Board of Directors Be in Action – Cultivating Your Practice
Our Guest Coachee Jane Bove Title, Microsoft
CAST OF INNER CRITIC CHARACTERS © 2011 Connect Growth and Development. All Rights Reserved. 4
Classic Critics © 2011 Connect Growth and Development. All Rights Reserved. 5
SHOW ME THE DATA! © 2011 Connect Growth and Development. All Rights Reserved. 8
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The Truth Series Is it 100% True? Y/N What is MORE true? Data, Specifics + Examples! What is LESS true? What else could be true? © 2011 Connect Growth and Development. All Rights Reserved. Thoroughly take the opposing, positive viewpoint. Turn the situation and/or the message upside down, around, invert it 10
INNER SUCCESS BUILDERS © 2011 Connect Growth and Development. All Rights Reserved. 11
Divine Flaw DIVINE FLAW What matters most is where the critic attacks
Work Your CORE Values Feelings Identity Strengths © 2011 Connect Growth and Development. All Rights Reserved. 14
Core Values • STEP1: Put a line through LESS important values • STEP2: Repeat, with the remaining words, which of these are LESS important? • STEP3: Select SIX of the remaining words as your MORE important values • STEP4: Stack rank, 1st most important value to 6th most important values
Who are YOU? © 2011 Connect Growth and Development. All Rights Reserved. 17
Core Identity Imagine yourself as four dinner guests. They can be real people, fictional characters, or your own made-up personifications. • • • • • • Who are they? Choose a label, name or the character. If each identity had an area of expertise, what would it be? What are three core values of each identity? What is the favorite topic of conversation for each identity? Which of the Six Classic Critics might trip it up? How would it most likely be triggered and what would the I.C. message likely be? • What’s on the line for this particular identity, what really matters to it?
KNOW THEY SUCCESS, KNOW THYSELF © 2011 Connect Growth and Development. All Rights Reserved. 19
Successes + Prouds • Think of two moments where you felt very successful. • Think of two moments where you felt very proud of yourself. • Increase your awareness 1. What characteristics, strengths, skills were present about YOU, about the situation? © 2011 Connect Growth and Development. All Rights Reserved. 20
CULTIVATE YOUR PRACTICE © 2011 Connect Growth and Development. All Rights Reserved. 23
Stacey’s PRACTICE • Learn about myself and my patterns • Be ready for the critic • Get very clear on my core • Recall my Divine Flaw • Get external perspective and feedback • Have a great crew • Let it flow, healthy venting and expression • Emotional hijack • Gratitude & Compassion © 2011 Connect Growth and Development. All Rights Reserved. 24
Planning + Practice • Think ahead into the next 2 weeks, when and where are IC moments likely? • What 2 tools are you going to practice? • Meet with your crew in 2 weeks • Share your stories, what you’re learning and what you’ll be practicing the next 2 weeks © 2011 Connect Growth and Development. All Rights Reserved. 25
Stacey Sargent, MA, Principal Stacey Sargent has a passion for helping leaders and teams connect to higher levels of performance! She has been coaching and consulting, helping clients face change, improve performance and have positive impact to business results for 17 years. Clients often refer to Stacey’s ability to bring an authentic and approachable manner, to ask the right questions, bring focus to leverage points and to help create accountability and business results in the work she does. She works in partnership with her clients in a direct, open and respectful manner. She uses emotional intelligence, communications and paradoxical and systems thinking as ways to create a higher return on investment in life and work for her clients. Stacey has worked in several key industries performing leadership, strategic, design and vision roles in business, accounting and finance, consulting, client relations, design and development. She understands business - the people, the numbers and the systems – that can be connected together in ways that transform. She has worked across industries in higher education, government & municipalities, and manufacturing. She is able to communicate across hierarchy, industry and focus so that people can come together to achieve high performance. Stacey traveled the USA, Latin and South America helping organizations deal with change and challenging their processes to gain more efficiency and effectiveness. Stacey holds a Master of Arts degree in Applied Behavioral Science from the Leadership Institute of Seattle at Bastyr University and a Bachelor of Arts degree in Business Finance from Western Washington University in Bellingham, WA. www.ConnectGD.com Stacey@ConnectGD.com 206.226.8928 © 2011 Connect Growth and Development. All Rights Reserved. 26
Resources BOOKS Emotional Capability •“Working with Emotional Intelligence” and “Primal Leadership”, by Daniel Goleman •“Authentic Happiness” and “Learned Optimism”, by Martin Seligman •“Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us”, by Daniel Pink Inner Critic and Doubts •“The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are”, by Brene Brown •“The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suffer from the Impostor Syndrome and How to Thrive in Spite of It”, by Valerie Young Leadership •“How Remarkable Women Lead: The Breakthrough Model for Work and Life”, by Joanna Barsh and Susie Cranston •“The Leadership Challenge”, by Kouzes & Posner •“The Practices of Adaptive Leadership” and “Leadership on the Line” by Heifetz & Linsky Success •“Now, Discover Your Strengths”, by Marcus Buckingham •“The Fire Starter Sessions: A Soulful + Practical Guide to Creating Success on Your Own Terms”, by Danielle LaPorte •“Transitions: Making Sense of Life's Changes”, by William Bridges •“Search Inside Yourself”, by Chade-Meng Tan BLOGS+ SITES •www.ConnectGD.com = Stacey Sargent: connections on success in work and life, blog •www.HBR.org = business, leadership, strategy and more •www.greatergood.berkeley.edu = research and writing on mindfulness, positive psychology, etc. •www.TED.com = a few of my favorites, just search on the speaker name… •Brene Brown, On Vulnerability in 2011 and 2012 •Sheryl Sandberg , Why We Have too Few Women Leaders •Simon Sinek, How Great Leaders Inspire Action •Richard St. John, Success Is a Continuous Journey •Arianna Huffington, How to Succeed, Get More Sleep •Shawn Anchor, The Happy Secret to Better Work © 2011 Connect Growth and Development. All Rights Reserved. 27
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