4 Mistakes You Are Making When Trying To Connect With Successful People

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Published on March 6, 2014

Author: jeremyngyw

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The top 4 mistakes people make when trying to establish connections with people we would like to reach out to. What to do and what not to do.

4 Mistakes You Are Making When Trying To Connect With Successful People (This article is from a blog post in JersPassageway.com) So you read my previous article on networking and making genuine connections. Those are some good foundations laid out. Now let’s connect with some influencers to help get some eyeballs on our work. Because what really puts you ahead of the competition is quite simply the ability to connect. With the right people that is. You cannot do it alone. I have said it before and I will say it again. Personal relationships run the world. In this article, you are going to find the top 4 mistakes people make when attempting to establish new connections and relationships with people they would want to work with. 1. I’m just a puny minion and you are God Oh please. If there is even a God, there’s only one and He’s up there. NEVER idolize anyone. No matter how awesome you think this person is. You can be a fan, but NEVER idolize. It’s different. Idolizing is saying something like “I’ll never be as good as you.” That’s bullshit.

You need to realise these people are sick and tired of hearing the same old thing 1 million times. Like they don’t already know how “low” you are compared to them. They get it. They know it. Forcing them to hear it for the thousandth time does not make them know it any better. Neither does it make them more likely to help you out or like you, just because you THINK you made them feel like a God. We are all just humans. And humans just want to connect with other humans. Talk like you would with a friend. Don’t be afraid to show your personality. Have fun. If you have a super cool personality, they’re not going to shove you aside just because you’re a “minion.” And do show your due respect as you would with anyone else. The reality is, there is more to risk when you piss this person off, than with most of your friends. 2. I must give like crazy! I know I talked a lot about offering massive value to people and helping like crazy. But the truth is, you often can’t when it comes to people way above you. In fact, you are indeed just a puny minion as mentioned above with little to offer. Unless you’re lucky enough to see a tweet by this dude looking for a piano teacher for his kids, and you’re lucky enough to be friends with a world-class pianist who teaches, there’s nothing much you can do. But don’t fret. You don’t have to offer “things”. Here’s one good example that I learnt recently. Have you read an expert’s advice on something on a blog post, implemented it, and got mindblowing results just the way the expert promised? What I would do is comment on his blog and tell him my story of how his advice worked for me. They love reading that. The fact that you’re one of the few who doesn’t just consume information but actually takes action will make you stand out. And how has that helped the expert?  He’s happy to know for sure that he’s improving lives – something that’s at the core of every true entrepreneur.  Social proof – you immediately make him look more credible and you boost his business and personal brand.

In a nutshell, your focus on connecting with successful people should not be on how you can help. There’s nothing much you can help with most of the time. Focus instead on showing how they’ve inspired your success. The bigger the better. At the end of the day, these people want to live fulfilled lives just as much as you do. And if you can show them how they’re making a difference in your life, you’ve already “helped” a ton. 3. Not doing your homework So you just met this awesome successful guy you’d love to reach out to. What do you do? Email him right away? Wrong. Learn and study him for a period. Understand the essence of this individual as much as possible and figure out what resonates with his soul. Figure out what lights him up. Do your damn homework. You need to learn to “speak their language” and show that you’ve really been a fan of their cause. Remember. Successful people just want to live fulfilled lives like you do. If you can show that you are really with them, that you follow them because you believe what they believe in, they will appreciate you. Here are some tips1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. Follow their Facebook profile / fan page and notice the kind of things they post. Read their blog posts and leave insightful comments. Opt in to their email lists. Read several of their books. Listen to past interviews on YouTube as well as Podcasts. Listen to their talks. eg. Ted Notice how they interact with people in the comments section.

8. Be really observant. eg. notice their favourite quotes Suli Breaks is huge on education and pursuing dreams. You should know about his viral videos and which one propelled him to stardom. You should know that “education is about inspiring one’s mind, not filling one’s head.” Andrew Ferebee loves “crushing life.” You should know which of his articles went viral. You should know he was inspired by Scott Dinsmore’s Ted talk. You should know he believes in the 4 pillars of Growth, Relationships, Health, and Wealth. Scott Dinsmore is all about community and the “work you can’t not do.” You should know a quote by Warren Buffet literally changed his life. You should know he’s the creator of the product Live Off Your Passion. And you should know that he believes “doing work you love is a fundamental human right.” These are just some examples of people I really look up to. The bare minimum you should know. 4. Asking how you can help NEVER make it the job of the expert to figure out how you can help him. That’s insanely silly. You already know how busy he is. If you do have some level of influence and expertise and you think you can help, 1. ALWAYS keep your message as short and straight to the point as possible. Don’t write an essay. 2. Offer the help that they are most likely to accept. To know what that is, you should have done your homework as in point 3 above. 3. Use whatever social proof and credentials you have to prove your authority or expertise. Don’t make them look for it, provide it clearly right there. And don’t be afraid to brag. They WANT to see what you’ve got.

Let’s go out there and make some connections. Get seen and build your personal brand. ~Helping you become the best version of yourself~ Jeremy writes about everything Personal Growth at his blog, Jer’s Passageway. Do give his blog a visit, he would love to connect with you!

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